Letting go

Letting go at anytime can be a challenge.  Loss in the holiday season, can add to an already emotional time.  Can you let go?  Can you let your heart stay open, when it feels like it is breaking?

It is a process.  The more willing you are, to just be in the process, allowing it to unfold, and let go; this can assist the speed with which you process.  It will still be painful, yet like a bandaid you can pull it off quickly or you can linger and the pain will linger, yet eventually the bandaid will come off.

For those that have tried to be tough, or have frozen their grief; know that your bandaid will eventually come off.  If you don’t choose when you process, it may come on you when you least expect it.  Have you ever wondered why, some people become very emotional over the loss of a public figure?  It is possible that the loss of a public figure, gives the space for those with frozen grief to let go.

What if a loss has occurred around or on a significant holiday time or date?  This can create a trigger around this significant holiday time or date.  What can you do?  Process.  Let go.  Overlay with something that makes you smile.  Remember the happy times.  This doesn’t lessen the value of your grief, yet it assists to add perspective.

Grief takes the time it takes.  The more willing you are to process,it can appear that you process more rapidly.  Yet you will still have moments.

Other Reflections:The emotion we often avoid…Grief; After a death; Death and Loss; Loss of a beloved pet; Learning to love, again; The empty nest; The challenging change – loss; Individual Coaching.